Rape, sexual assault and sexual harassment

What is sexual harassment?

When someone calls you insulting sexual names, talks about you in a sexual way that makes you feel uncomfortable (like commenting on your body), or spreads sexual rumours about you, this is known as sexual harassment.  This could happen in person, over the phone, or online.

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What is sexual assault?

If someone intentionally grabs or touches you in a sexual way that you do not like, or you’re forced to kiss someone or do something else sexual against your will, this is classed as sexual assault.

This includes sexual touching of any part of someone’s body, and it makes no difference whether you are clothed or not.

What is rape?

If you are forced to have penetrative sex with someone, or someone has sex with you without your consent or agreement, this is rape.

In the past 12 months Voice has supported over 1,500 adults who have had sexual offences committed against them. Our service is free, confidential and don’t have to have reported anything to the police or any other agency to get help from us.

Many people worry about reporting rape and sexual assault to the police because they:

  • had been drinking alcohol or taking drugs at the time;
  • are in a relationship with or know the person who attacked them;
  • have had a sexual relationship with that person before;
  • had been kissing or touching that person before the attack;
  • are in a same sex (gay or lesbian) relationship;
  • didn’t say ‘no’ or didn’t fight back; and
  • can’t remember the incident properly.

Sexual harassment, sexual assault and rape are never justifiable, no matter what the circumstances. They are illegal and should be reported to the police.

How should I feel after sexual crimes have been committed against me?

Quite simply there is no right or wrong of how to feel. A lot of your feelings will depend on the incident. Common feelings after incidents are:

  • avoiding places and people involved in the incident;
  • feeling anxious, scared, frightened or upset;
  • not wanting to socialise or go out;
  • trouble sleeping and nightmares; and
  • feeling sick and experiencing headaches.

What should I do if I’ve been sexual harassed, assaulted or raped?

  • report the incident to the police. These crimes are illegal and wrong, and you should not expect to be subjected to any crimes of this kind; and
  • talk to Voice. Crimes of a sexual nature can be extremely traumatic and can affect you in many different ways. We’re here to provide free, confidential emotional and practical support and can help you go through the process of reporting something to the police if you’re worried about doing so.